We hear it all the time nowadays. Your problems are problems because another group of people is responsible for creating them.
If you’re black, your societal issues regarding discrimination and an inequality in the socio-economic sector has to do with discrimination perpetrated at the pasty hands of: white people.
If you’re a woman, the issues and discrimination you face for your gender are due to the oppressive nature of MEN.
If you’re Muslim, Christians and Jews are responsible for spreading Islamophobia.
If you’re gay, the reason you don’t seem to fit in is because of straight people.
It’s just the way it is, isn’t it? No. That’s not the way society has to be. Other people don’t need to be responsible for your personal problems. So wake up, take a deep breath, and follow this handy-dandy [conservative] guide on how NOT to victimize yourself.
Here are your two very important tips to know when it comes to not victimizing yourself:
First, the most important thing to remember is that change starts with YOU. Not with anyone else, but YOU. How are you going to better yourself? How are you going to tackle those obstacles in life? It’s your choice whether to take those obstacles upon yourself or to blame others for them.
Picture this situation: you come home from school one day, bummed out and down-in-the-dumps that you failed your Algebra II exam with a solid fifty. Being in this position before, my first instinct four years ago would have been to blame the failure on the teacher. My mom would say that I needed to ask myself some questions first—did I study hard enough? Did I understand the material? Did I meet with my teacher as much as I needed to? Did I do everything I possibly could have done in order to prepare for this test?
If all the answers to those questions are yes, then maybe I can start blaming the teacher’s bad teaching skills on my fifty. Do I look at myself first and see which mistakes I made, or do I come home and immediately blame Jimmy who got a 100 on the test?
Maybe Jimmy met with the teacher more than I did. Perhaps Jimmy studied a lot harder than I did. Whether it’s in school or anywhere else in life (even in the left’s identity politics) this can apply. Take the high road and look inside yourself, not the easy road that involves blaming others for your shortcomings.
Second, your past, skin color, or religion does not define your future. As many people say it would, it is completely and utterly false.
Take the situation of African Americans in this country, for example. African Americans were brutally and relentlessly oppressed in the United States for a near 400 years. The horrific past of slavery, Jim Crow, and the Klan’s vicious wave of terror does not define at all what Black Americans can or cannot achieve in this country nowadays.
Tragically, there is no shortage of people out their who hate or discriminate against African Americans. But Black Americans have two choices in this country—to wallow in self-pity of the horrific and completely unjustified acts committed against them, or to pick themselves up by the bootstraps and move forward into the future. I applaud African-Americans like Kanye West, Candace Owens, Sheriff David Clarke, Fifty Cent, Dan Bogino, Chance the Rapper, Arthell Neville, and Ice Cube who have decided that moving towards the future is better is staying in the past.
Women have had it rough in the United States for centuries. Although there is always room for improvement, it seems that the “Men suck!” notion has been adopted. In other words, the fact that since men are men, they lack the ability to understand the struggles women go through in society, therefore men have a greater societal advantage, and meaning that the system is largely unfair.
Understandable. There are many things women have to deal with that men don’t. But what’s your solution to that? Do you join the leftist feminist movement who says, “men are stupid and useless” and “men this…” and “men that…”, or do you make yourself comfortable in your own skin, look those disadvantages straight in the eye, and challenge them? I think the latter is the best option.
I have spoken briefly about my Jewish heritage in previous articles, but here’s a little more about it. My people and ancestors endured horrific atrocities during their times.
We endured brutal slavery for 400 years in Egypt. We cried and wailed as the Assyrians and Romans destroyed our Holy Temples. We endured pogroms in Russia. We watched in Medieval Spain and across Europe as our brothers and sisters were beheaded and burnt at the stake simply because they were Jewish. We endured the Christian Crusaders slaughtering us in our own homeland. We watched in horror as our families were sent to the gas chambers at Auschwitz. Every year we remember the 6 million Jews and the 1.5 million children who were murdered, and remind ourselves that there are still those who seek our destruction.
Today, we hear regimes threaten to wipe us off the face of the earth. Today, we see white nationalists glorify Adolf Hilter and belittle us. Today, we read on the news of how entire families are murdered in their homes on the Sabbath night at the hands of animalistic terrorists.
All because they were Jewish.
Yet, we’ve survived and are stronger than ever before. We didn’t survive all these years by pointing fingers at the Spaniards, the Germans, and the Christians. We survived because we chose to move forward because the future was more important than the past. We didn’t “victimize” ourselves because of our history. If we wanted to point fingers, we’d be pointing them at everybody!
Everybody in the history of the world, be it White, Black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, Muslim, Christian, Jewish, man of woman has suffered some form of oppression. We need to remember our pasts, not stay in them.
We don’t have to be afraid of moving forward, because there’s a way to remember while doing that.
Moving forward doesn’t mean forget—it means accepting that the past is the past and that life moves on. People are going to hate—it’s just human nature. But, we can either choose to acknowledge that hate, embrace it, and keep moving forward, or stay in the dumps of victimization.
As a Jew, I’m proud to say that I’ve been dealing with hatred for over 6,000 years. I’ve dealt with non-stop hatred for 6,000 years, and I can deal with it for another 6,000 more. And if I can do it, anyone who considers themselves “marginalized” or “oppressed” can do it to.